Finding your life less than perfect is a waste of your time.
Do exactly the opposite of what the sheep are doing in order to become the Shepherd.
People will always respect you when you're in the process of being better.
Unless you love yourself, it's difficult to respect anyone else who holds that high an opinion of you.
Everything you want and you don't have, you get from other people.
When you are doing what you really love and creating the life that you really want it will be easier to create a healthy personal relationship with someone that will be supportive of what you want too.