We have an idea - a very modern idea - that dying is undignified. But I think this is because we have the illusion that we can control our bodies and our fates.
Meghan O'RourkeA death from a long illness is very different from a sudden death. It gives you time to say goodbye and time to adjust to the idea that the beloved will not be with you anymore.
Meghan O'RourkeThere are many kinds of loss embedded in a loss - the loss of the person, and the loss of the self you got to be with that person. And the seeming loss of the past, which now feels forever out of reach.
Meghan O'RourkeThe truth is, I need to experience my mother's presence in the world around me and not just in my head.
Meghan O'RourkeTime doesnโt obey our commands. You cannot make it holy just because it is disappearing.
Meghan O'RourkeWhile I did a lot of research, I ended up feeling that the best way to write about grief was to describe it from the inside out - the show the strange intensities that come along with it, the peculiar thoughts, the longing for that past - all the strange moments of thinking you glimpse the dead person on the street, or in your dreams.
Meghan O'Rourke