Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. Weโll set a limit when weโre ready, and not a moment before. So will others. Thereโs something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because weโre controlling others, but because weโve changed.
Melody BeattieToday I will honor, cherish, and love myself. When I get confused about what to do, I just have to remember that I need to be true to myself. I will break free of the hold that others-and their expectations-ha ve on me.
Melody BeattieToday I will realize that I'm powerless over other people's expectations of me. I'll think about what I want and consider that how I respond to others' needs will affect the course of my life. I will own my own power and choose the course that's right for me.
Melody BeattieGuilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other peoples best interests.
Melody Beattie...Help me let go of my need to stay immersed in negativity. I can change the energy in myself and my environment from negaยญtive to positive. I will affirm the good until it sinks in and feels real. I will also strive to find one quality that I like about someone else who's important to me, and I will take the risk of telling him or her that.
Melody Beattie