A person can make himself happy, or miserable, regardless of what is actually happening 'outside,' just by changing the contents of consciousness.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiSocializing is more positive than being alone, that's why meetings are so popular. People don't like being alone. That would be, however, an important skill to learn.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiRepression is not the way to virtue. When people restrain themselves out of fear, their lives are by necessity diminished. Only through freely chosen discipline can life be enjoyed and still kept within the bounds of reason.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi