To overcome the anxieties and depressions of contemporary life, individuals must become independent of the social environment to the degree that they no longer respond exclusively in terms of its rewards and punishments. To achieve such autonomy, a person has to learn to provide rewards to herself. She has to develop the ability to find enjoyment and purpose regardless of external circumstances.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiThose periods of struggling to overcome challenges are what people find to be the most enjoyable times.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiThe most important step in emancipating oneself from social controls is the ability to find rewards in the events of each moment.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiMost enjoyable activities are not natural; they demand an effort that initially one is reluctant to make. But once the interaction starts to provide feedback to the person's skills, it usually begins to be intrinsically rewarding.
Mihaly CsikszentmihalyiIt is by being fully involved with every detail of our lives, whether good or bad, that we find happiness, not by trying to look for it directly.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi