Fantasy isn't something you run out of.

After sex, men fear too much intimacy; they want to separate again. Women want to talk, to continue the merging, melting fusion into one. Postcoital conversations keep the woman's power alive. Through unconscious severance, by falling asleep, the man regains his self.

Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It’s disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn’t matter where it comes from.

In a baby's first months, the earliest patterns of intimacy or distrust are forever grooved into his soul.

Separation is not the end of love; it creates love.

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.

Blaming mother is just a negative way of clinging to her still.