By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.

When you're hurting another person, past a certain point you're cracking them open and whatever's inside them gets all over you. So you should kinda check out whether you want that to happen.

By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.

If you live in a society that wishes you didn't exist, anything you do to make yourself happy disrupts its attempts to wipe you out, or at the very least, make you invisible.

SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a basement filled with bondage furniture.

Responsibility without power is a really bad deal.

If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.