By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.

Boy lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers... are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents who force their staid morality onto the young people in their custody.

The scars are a way of reminding me that the past is real. They are honorable.

SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a basement filled with bondage furniture.

By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.

A lot of people who are depressed, I think, are suffering from blocked creativity.

When it comes to your inner critic, my advice is to not take advice from someone who doesn't like you. That's like returning to the perpetrator for healing after you've been abused.