If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.
Patrick CalifiaWhen it comes to your inner critic, my advice is to not take advice from someone who doesn't like you. That's like returning to the perpetrator for healing after you've been abused.
Patrick CalifiaIf you live in a society that wishes you didn't exist, anything you do to make yourself happy disrupts its attempts to wipe you out, or at the very least, make you invisible.
Patrick CalifiaWhy do I write? I write because I have to, because it is all I know, because it is my truth, because I am compelled, because I am driven to make the world acknowledge that women like me exist, and we possess a dangerous wisdom.
Patrick Califia