The scars are a way of reminding me that the past is real. They are honorable.

When you're hurting another person, past a certain point you're cracking them open and whatever's inside them gets all over you. So you should kinda check out whether you want that to happen.

Boy lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers... are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents who force their staid morality onto the young people in their custody.

When it comes to your inner critic, my advice is to not take advice from someone who doesn't like you. That's like returning to the perpetrator for healing after you've been abused.

If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.

Responsibility without power is a really bad deal.

By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.