Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age-and all of our fears that it carries-will "rub off" on us, the way that racists once believed blackness would.

Remember that that "rude awakening" which your parents and well-meaning relatives threatened you with as a kid is better than no awakening at all.

Still water does not only run deep. It runs dangerously.

If you've been taught to keep every part of you to yourself, don't expect people to come knocking on your door to run their hands over the choice parts-either for your pleasure or theirs.

Eat without the TV going on. Learn to appreciate food with only the entertainment of conversation-yours and someone else's.

There are two things in life that money cannot buy: health and happiness. Aside from that, it does an excellent job.

We think of death and loss as tragic twins, but in fact it is loss that hurts us.