Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age-and all of our fears that it carries-will "rub off" on us, the way that racists once believed blackness would.

Learn to detest things that do not allow you to be yourself, and embrace things that make that self larger, more thrilling, and voluptuous.

Be reckless in your intensities.

Start a conversation with someone with whom you have "nothing in common" and no possibility of scoring with, networking with, or even seeing again. In other words, a conversation just for the civilized hell of it.

The lowest form of barbarism is smugly to berate someone for extending an act of kindness.

Have hot, wild sex with a friend. Then go out and do something stupid, like bowl, afterwards.

To extend oneself does not necessarily mean to have an erection.