We need to tell people not to be helpful. Trying to be helpful and giving advise are really ways to control others. ... Advice, recommendations, and obvious actions are exactly what increase the likelihood that tomorrow will be just like yesterday.

The essential challenge is to transform the isolation and self-interest within our communities into connectedness and caring for the whole.

Every parent's deepest wish is that their children are self sufficient, happy, and able to live a full life.

The goal is to balance a life that works with a life that counts.

Questions draw us together. Answers push us apart.

Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.

We must establish a personal connection with each other. Connection before content. Without relatedness, no work can occur.