The goal is to balance a life that works with a life that counts.
How many times have we brought in an outsider to tell us what we already knew?
It is hard to learn when we think we know something.
Good questions work on us, we don't work on them. They are not a project to be completed but a doorway opening onto greater depth of understanding, actions that will take us into being more fully alive.
To be committed means you are willing to make a promise with no exception of return.
Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.