There's a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It's not something you can give; it's something they have to build. Coach Graham worked in a no-coddling zone. Self-esteem? He knew there was really only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can't do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process.
Randy PauschThe person who failed often knows how to avoid future failures. The person who knows only success can be more oblivious to all the pitfalls.
Randy Pausch