Loving's pretty easy. It's letting someone love you that's hard.

Youth moves out, leaving no forwarding address. No matter how you try, you can't reach that person again or that place.

sex has never been private and it never will be. We perform the act in private but we must be public about the connection. Sex is how we pass down worldly goods. It's how we create the primary unit of our society, the couple. ... This rule applies to gay people as well as straight people. ... The community absolutely must know who is straight, who is gay, who is married, and who is single. Without that information we make painful mistakes and lose time.

Would it upset men if they found out we weren't different? Are we? Aren't we? Damned if I know.

I think gay people are like blondes: There're fewer of them but they have more fun.

I do think women avoid power. Power assumes responsibility and accountability, and I think many, many women want to have it both ways.

Plot involves fragmentary reality, and it might involve composite reality. Fragmentary reality is the view of the individual. Composite reality is the community or state view. Fragmentary reality is always set against composite reality. Virginia Woolf did this by creating fragmentary monologues and for a while this was all the rage in literature. She was a genius. In the hands of the merely talented it came off like gibberish.