Being completely in control is a fantasy.

Kids are overprogrammed these days.

When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

It's so crucial to really get a good handle on what's getting in the way of the kid completing a homework assignment. It can be so many things.

No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.