Being completely in control is a fantasy.

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.

If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's a family problem that needs to be solved.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Kids are overprogrammed these days.