The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

Everybody is talking about the behavior. Behaviors float downstream to us. We need to paddle upstream. The problems that are causing the behaviors, that's what's waiting for us. It's a crucial paradigm shift.

You're your kid's partner, not the person who's pulling all the strings.

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.