Reactive people... are often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior.
Stephen CoveyIntrinsic security doesn't come from what other people think of us or how they treat us. It doesn't come from our circumstance or out position. It comes from within. It comes from accurate paradigms and correct principles deep in our own mind and heart. It comes from inside-out congruence, from living a life of integrity in which our daily habits reflect our deepest values.
Stephen Covey