When two people in a marriage are more concerned about getting the golden eggs, the benefits, than they are in preserving the relationship that makes them possible, they often become insensitive and inconsiderate, neglecting the little kindnesses and courtesies so important to a deep relationship. They begin to use control levers to manipulate each other, to focus on their own needs, to justify their own position and look for evidence to show the wrongness of the other person. The love, the richness, the softness and spontaneity begin to deteriorate.

You can buy a person's hands but you can't buy his heart. His heart is where his enthusiasm, his loyalty is.

Visualising something organises one's ability to accomplish it.

Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

True greatness will be achieved through the abundant mind that works selflessly - with mutual respect, for mutual benefit.

You can't have the fruits without the roots.

Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people. But it takes time and patience.