The only failure is the failure to learn from conscious and deliberate efforts to make things better, even if those attempts fall short of the mark.

If you're searching for "work/life balance" you'll always be disappointed because "balance" connotes a zero-sum equation.

Continual improvisation on a theme is a more useful way to think of how to bring the various parts of life together.

Executives are afraid of losing control if subordinates try to roam too far. Conversely, hierarchy squelches talent by forcing rote standardization through the punishment of failure, a necessary accompaniment to experimentation.

In my teaching and consulting practice, I encourage people to learn to experiment with confidence and to see themselves as scientists in the laboratory of their lives, continually trying new ways to pursue what matters most to them and to the people who depend on them. Smart, small wins are crucial to this approach, as is devoting time and attention to reflecting on what works and what doesn't.

Of course that's the best way to continue to learn anything: Try to teach it!

Knowing what matters most, what I call "being real," is the alpha and omega for leaders.