There's healthy attachment, like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival.

When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.

We are continually experiencing the conditioning to hold on, tighten, or resist.

Most of us grew up with a very damaging story that something is wrong with us. Gradually - or as in my case, suddenly - we become resolved not to believe this anymore. It takes a dedicated practice to follow up on that resolution, because the conditioning is very strong to keep generating self-demeaning stories.

Stories can be a jumping-off point to access the emotions and the sensations in the body.

By running from what we fear, we feed the inner darkness

Offer some gesture of kindness to yourself. Sometimes it's just a message, to say: "It's okay. You're going to be okay. We've been through this before." The intention is reassurance, that you are not alone and you can do this. It is the most powerful way to come out of what I call the "trance of unworthiness."