I sometimes call this our "spacesuit self" because we come into an environment that is difficult and challenging, where we're told to be different. We're told to jump over hoops to be loved and appreciated, so we have to develop spacesuit strategies to get approval and create ways to avoid being judged.
Tara BrachMy understanding is that to love, we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world.
Tara BrachExtend an act of kindness each day. No one has to know. It can be a smile, reassuring words, a small favor - without expecting something in return.
Tara BrachOur kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others.
Tara BrachLearning to pause is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. A pause is a suspension of activity, a time of temporary disengagement when we are no longer moving toward any goal ... The pause can occur in the midst of almost any activity and can last for an instant, for hours or for seasons of our life ... You might try it now: Stop reading and sit there, doing 'no thing,' and simply notice what you are experiencing.
Tara Brach