I think we females have a lot of work to do for each other.
In one way I would like to teach, but I have no qualifications to teach Westerners.
When I was in retreat I just did my meditation sessions and, in-between, reading and things I had to do.
We have to transform those ordinary actions of our day into dharma practice because otherwise nothing is going to move.
Obviously being relaxed doesn't mean that you make no effort.
As my lama always told me, I learned that I practice better when I'm by myself.