Our lives are not dependent on whether or not we have conflict. It is what we do with conflict that makes the difference.

The number one goal in resolving a conflict is to make sure both sides maintain their self-esteem. Resolving conflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment and appreciation of differences.

It is hard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because we are not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creating a new "pearl" as we are in being right.

What would it be like if you lived each day, each breath, as a work of art in progress? Imagine that you are a masterpiece unfolding each second of every day, a work of art taking form with every breath.

The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.

Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point - a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.

When conflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.