You cannot stop destructive actions by others, but you can stop your own destructive reactions to them
Vernon HowardRealize that the surface personality has no interest in anything which might disturb its darling delusions.
Vernon HowardA chief cause of unhappiness is what I call mental movies. Mental movies are a misuse of the imagination. You know how it goes. You have a painful experience with someone, then run it over and over in your mind. You visualize what you said, what he did, how you both felt. As awful as it is, you feel compelled to repeat the film day and night. It is as if you were locked inside a theatre playing a horrible movie.
Vernon Howard