We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.

The Freudian tradition will never completely die because it has a few good points. For example, people have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Most of cognitive therapy has now adopted a similar idea. On the other hand, the relationship part of psychoanalysis - where you must have a deep, emotional relationship with the client - will, I think, get kicked in the teeth one of these days.

The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.

Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions.

The easy way out is often just that-the 'easy' way out of the most rewarding lifestyle.

Thinking rationally is often different from "positive thinking," in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the problem if possible.

Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.