Some who support [more] coercive strategies assume that children will run wild if they are not controlled. However, the children for whom this is true typically turn out to be those accustomed to being controlledโ those who are not trusted, given explanations, encouraged to think for themselves, helped to develop and internalize good values, and so on. Control breeds the need for more control, which is used to justify the use of control.
Alfie KohnEach time I visit such a classroom, where the teacher is more interested in creating a democratic community than in maintaining her position of authority, Iโm convinced all over again that moving away from consequences and rewards isnโt just realistic - itโs the best way to help kids grow into good learners and good people.
Alfie Kohn