You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can change the story you've attached to those events.

What really has helped me through my own breakups has been learning tools to self-soothe, reframe, and forgive, and how to channel negative energy into positive. Resilience is a muscle. Learning how to cope and process painful emotions is a muscle. And I've been through enough ups and downs to know that you have a choice. You can use breakups, which are pivotal points in life, as a catalyst for growth, or you can choose to have it make you jaded and more fear-based.

Chemistry does not guarantee compatibility.

You don't achieve greatness in life being surrounded by mediocre people with mediocre values. Choose your company wisely.

You allow people to treat you the way they do. Your energy, confidence and attitude is the currency that others will transact with.

Integrity is when your good intentions meet your actions - on a consistent basis.

The "natural" instincts when someone is going through a breakup are counterintuitive to healing. For instance, many people stop eating or eat very unhealthy, and if your body is not fed the necessary nutrients during this trying time, it's extremely difficult for you to heal emotionally. So, first things first, force yourself to eat, even if that entails drinking green smoothies so you're getting nutrients in your body.