Talk about your failures without apologizing.

We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.

Vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight, but probably won my life back.

Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.

Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

But I don't think it's as dangerous, scary, or terrifying as getting to the end of our lives and wondering, what if I would have shown up?

If you want to make a difference, the next time you see someone being cruel to another human being, take it personally. Take it personally because it is personal!