We teach what we have to learn. It's been an extraordinary journey that I couldn't have done with not only the research participants but the community, the tribe that we've built of people who are also on this journey.

The only universal language I know of that wraps up joy and gratitude and love is laughter.

The credit belongs to those of us who are actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. We strive valiantly and sometimes there's the triumph of achievement but at the worst, we fail, but at least we fail while daring greatly." That has really changed my life. Profoundly changed my life.

Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.

Vulnerability is the absolute heartbeat of innovation and creativity. There can be zero innovation without vulnerability.

I became Vulnerability TED, like an action figure - like Ninja Barbie, but I'm Vulnerability TED.

One of the most painfully inauthentic ways we show up in our lives sometimes is saying "yes" when we mean "no," and saying "no" when we mean "hell yes." I'm the oldest of four, a people-pleaser - that's the good girl straitjacket that I wear sometimes. I spent a lot of my life saying yes all the time and then being pissed off and resentful.