Connection is why we're here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection.

Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy.

You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.

If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way- especially shame, fear and vulnerability

Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.

That's really part of being a grounded theory researcher - putting names to concepts and experiences that people have.

I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude.