Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.
What makes something better is connection.
You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you can't have both.
Lean into the discomfort of the work.
If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive.
Caring about the welfare of children and shaming parents are mutually exclusive endeavors.