Authenticity is also about the courage and the vulnerability to say, "Yeah, I'll try it. I feel pretty uncomfortable and I feel a little vulnerable, but I'll try it!"

Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.

When you numb your pain you also numb your joy.

Then I tell my own story. The two things that people really need to transform is language to understand their experience and to know they're not alone. It's the combination of the researcher-storyteller part.

All the stuff that keeps you safe from feeling scary emotions? They also keep you from feeling the good emotions. You have to shake those off. You have to become vulnerable.

You cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame.

Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism.