Compassion is not a virtue -- it is a commitment. It's not something we have or don't have -- it's something we choose to practice.

The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.

It’s no longer a question of can I do it. It’s a question of: Do I want to do it?

I think that shame is a universal, paralyzing, painful emotion.

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.

If you're also in the arena and you're putting your ideas out and you're owning them and you're saying "I disagree with you about this and that, I think you've got this wrong" - then not only do I invite that, I freaking love that. I love that. I'm an academic. I'm hardwired for a good debate.

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.