Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites.

Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement.

We need to change what we say and what we allow to be said in front of us.

Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

The real questions for parents should be: "Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?" If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time. The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn't exist, and I've found what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.

If there's a feeling you have, other people have it. If there's something weird about your life, other people have lived it. If there's something kooky about your body, other people have that, too. We're not alone. There's some kind of tremendous relief in that and I think it can only be expressed in belly laughter. This tremendous relief that happens the millisecond we realize, it's not just me. That's what good laughter is about. It's about knowing that you're not alone.