We can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.

Cruelty is easy, cheap and rampant.

For me, the opposite of scarcity is not abundance. It's enough. I'm enough. My kids are enough.

When we numb [hard feelings], we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness.

I don't just want someone who says they love me; I want someone who practices that love for me every day.

I've come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.

Someone asked me very recently why I have 8 million views on TED - "your work resonates, what are you doing?" What I think my contribution is, what I do well, is I name experiences that are very universal that no one really talks about. That's the researcher in me; that's really part of being a grounded theory researcher - putting names to concepts and experiences that people have. That's the researcher part.