Lean into the discomfort of the work.

If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.

I think a lot of us are multiple things that don't always fit together neatly in a bio box.

When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver!

Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?" Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think?"

At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized.