Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust. It's not oversharing, it's not purging, it's not indiscriminate disclosure, and it's not celebrity-style social media information dumps. Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.

Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.

Believing that you're enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic.

The only universal language I know of that wraps up joy and gratitude and love is laughter.

Lean into the discomfort of the work.

If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.(page 10)

We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.