The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.

In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.