The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain that turns it into suffering.

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.

The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.