If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

The best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next.