If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing.

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.