If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.

All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.