My experience is the opposite.
If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t.
I am the perpetrator of my suffering - but only all of it.
When you srgue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.
Suffering over things that have happened to us is nothing more than an argument with the past.
Eating, drinking, and depression disorders are really thinking disorders.