Joy is a natural way of being.
What we really believe is what we manifest. What we believe, we see.
Happiness is the natural state for someone who knows that there's nothing to know.
Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don't want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.
Freedom is our birthright.
If people are living their lives for security and comfort and pleasure, then mind's every waking moment will be plotting those things. That's how it stays identified - as a body, as a you.