If you're yelling within you that they shouldn't yell at you, that is where the pain begins, not with their yelling at you.
Byron KatieWhen you're operating on uninvestigated theories of what's going on and you aren't even aware of it, you're in what I call "the dream." Often the dream becomes troubling; sometimes it even turns into a nightmare. At times like these, you may want to test the truth of your theories by doing The Work on them. The Work always leaves you with less of your uncomfortable story. Who would you be without it? How much of your world is made up of unexamined stories? You'll never know until you inquire.
Byron KatieRather than understand the original cause-a thought-we try to change the stressful feelings by looking outside ourselves.
Byron KatieIt's not easy to find your own way when you believe that you need love, approval, appreciation, or anything from your family. It's particularly hard when you want them to see things your way.
Byron KatieYour nature is truth, and when you oppose it, you don't feel like yourself. Stress never feels as natural as peace does.
Byron KatieNothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That's how you move away from him. That's how the marriage ends. You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That's how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.
Byron Katie