If I say, if I talk about, 'I want to be enlightened...' it implies a future. And there isn't any.
Byron KatieWhen you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.
Byron KatieNothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That's how you move away from him. That's how the marriage ends. You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That's how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.
Byron Katie