So what should we say when children complete a task—say, math problems—quickly and perfectly? Should we deny them the praise they have earned? Yes. When this happens, I say, “Whoops. I guess that was too easy. I apologize for wasting your time. Let’s do something you can really learn from!

I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could.

Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.

It’s for you to decide whether change is right for you right now. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. But either way keep the growth mindset in your thoughts then when you bump up against obstacles you can turn to it, it will always be there for you showing you a path into the future.

The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

Vowing, even intense vowing, is often useless. The next day comes and the next day goes. What works is making a vivid, concrete plan.

It is not always people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.