However, to modify a habit, you must decide to change it. You must consiously accept the hard work of identifying the cues and rewards that drive the habits' routines, and find alternatives. You must know you have control and be self-conscious enough to use it -- and every chapter in this book is devoted to illustrating a different aspect of why that control is real.
Charles DuhiggThe Golden Rule of Habit Change: You can't extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.
Charles DuhiggRather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.
Charles DuhiggHabits are powerful, but delicate. They can emerge outside our consciousness, or can be deliberately designed. They often occur without our permission, but can be reshaped by fiddling with their parts. They shape our lives far more than we realizeโthey are so strong, in fact, that they cause our brains to cling to them at the exclusion of all else, including common sense.
Charles Duhigg