The same process that makes AA so effectiveโthe power of a group to teach individuals how to believeโhappens whenever people come together to help one another change. Belief is easier when it occurs within a community.
Charles DuhiggThere's a natural instinct embedded in friendship, a sympathy that makes us willing to fight for someone we like when they are treated unjustly.
Charles DuhiggWillpower isnโt just a skill. Itโs a muscle, like the muscles in your arms or legs, and it gets tired as it works harder, so thereโs less power left over for other things.
Charles DuhiggHowever, to modify a habit, you must decide to change it. You must consiously accept the hard work of identifying the cues and rewards that drive the habits' routines, and find alternatives. You must know you have control and be self-conscious enough to use it -- and every chapter in this book is devoted to illustrating a different aspect of why that control is real.
Charles Duhigg