Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.

We should spend less time ranking children and more time helping them to identify their natural competencies and gifts, and cultivate those.

When the darkness is seen as a necessary prelude to the creative light, one is less likely to ascribe frustration to personal inadequacy or label it as bad.

As much as 80% of adult "success" comes from EQ.

Our brain comes hard-wired with an urge to play, one that hurls us into sociability. A child's play both demands and creates its own safe space, one in which she can confront threats, fears, and dangers, but always come through whole. Play offers a child a natural way to manage feared separations or abandonment, rendering them instead opportunities for mastery and self-discovery.

Emotional self-control is NOT the same as overcontrol, the stifling of all feeling and spontaneity....when such emotional suppression is chronic, it can impair thinking, hamper intellectual performance and interfere with smooth social interaction. By contrast, emotional competence implies we have a choice as to how we express our feelings.

There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.