Whenever you are immersed in compulsive thinking, you are avoiding what is. You don't want to be where you are. Here, Now.
Eckhart TolleWork to recognize the primary importance of the present moment. A good little pointer toward that is to ask yourself, "What is my relationship with the present moment? How am I relating to it?"
Eckhart TolleWherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences.
Eckhart Tolle