As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.

Is fear preventing you from taking action? Acknowledge the fear, watch it, take your attention into it, be fully present with it. Doing so cuts the link between the fear and your thinking. Don't let the fear rise up into your mind. Use the power of the Now. Fear cannot prevail against it.

Strictly speaking, you don't think: Thinking happens to you.

The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.

Whenever anything negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it, although you may not see it at the time

Wisdom comes with the ability to be still. Just look and listen. No more is needed.

When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation or accept it, all else is madness.