Enlightenment means choosing to dwell in a state of presence rather than in time. It means saying yes to what is.

Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.

For a relationship to deepen, at some point the spiritual dimension needs to come in. You don't even need to be fully awakened for this to happen, but if it does happen it certainly means you are awakening.

Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.

This is the essence for every human being to realize that who they are, essentially, is far more than the physical body and is far more than the mental body, the psychological makeup, the psychological "me" body. Who they are is far deeper than that.

The other person's presence ultimately is the same as your presence, because it is in presence that there is true meeting.

The best indicator of your level of consciousness is how you deal with life's challenges when they come. Through those challenges, an already unconscious person tends to become more deeply unconscious, and a conscious person more intensely conscious. You can use a challenge to awaken you, or you can allow it to pull you into even deeper sleep. The dream of ordinary unconsciousness then turns into a nightmare.