Sometimes people have a wild past because they have an essentially wild nature, and that's how they plan to go through life. Sometimes such people settle into happy monogamy, and can be content there because they never have to wonder, "What did I miss?"

When people are really drunk they have a propensity to harm themselves and others - they fall off buildings, they drive into other cars.

Anyone who marries gets no guarantee that their partner, no matter what they vow, will always keep that promise.

I spent most of my 20s dating older men, and I really wish I had spent that time dating men my own age who were going through the same experiences I was. I totally understand the appeal of a mature, dashing older man over fellow twenty-somethings who are still figuring things out. And, true, a fling with an older man can be instructive in many ways, and no doubt he finds you attractive.

When you expand the definition of marriage beyond one man and one woman, society can expect other consenting adults in other configurations to say that their choices deserve recognition.

I've never gotten a letter where I thought I knew the person. But I have heard from people who think they know the letter writer.

I agree that not responding, and blocking his email, is the way to deal with the man you hope falls silent again.